“Laugh out loud to lighten the load that you carry. Cares take a toll on our health. When we find something to laugh about we can blow them away with laugher. I am a huge fan of spreading joy and laughter. When you smile at someone, they usually return the smile…”
Emotions and how to deal with them is not always taught
cope. it is taught one way or another.
most addicts are not found until they want to be
hovering over them is often a forced hand that will enable
addiction is found in all areas, the results will vary
control is loved by all humans
empowerment is a personal view
a saving grace to an addict is not understood by all
rock bottom, lacks direction because it is never in the same place
At the start of any addiction one is in control. while spinning it looks pretty and many look on in amazement. then it begins to wobble and spin out of control. when one impacted by the force of hitting rock bottom; many shake in wonder how did I get here? just like a child’s toy top, you chose to start this game spinning. nothing spins forever not even mother earth.
Are you over the day to to drama? Do you always worry what your boss will point out next? Do you feel like the kid being bullied in school? Do you feel as if there is no way out?
This is the blog for you. How could quitting be Your next best thing?
First why don’t we look at your employment.
ARE YOU DOING WHAT YOU DREAMED OF?
ARE YOU LIVING WHERE YOU WANT TO LIVE FOR AT LEAST THE NEXT 5 YEARS?
ARE YOU IN A STUDY RELATIONSHIP, MARRIAGE, PARTNERSHIP?
ARE YOU HEALTHY, SOBER, IN A GOOD MIND SET?
Remember, once we enter adulthood and cross over from the job to the career it is vital that we leave a trial that is not harmful in our advancements. With that said, let us look at the results of quitting.
Do you have A JOB OR A CAREER? COULD YOU AFFORD TO quit?
What if you did quit your job?
Would it help you?
WHAT IF YOU QUIT GIVING YOUR BOSS POWER AND STOP CARING WHAT THEY THOUGHT?
what would happen :
If you quit giving away your positive time and energy
If you quit caring about what other people thought
If you stopped lying when responding to coworker’s questions
EXAMPLE:How are you today Dan? I am great. RESULT: Simple things as saying you are great when you are not is allowing them to have the power of speech over you. It is okay to not be fine, and you need to be able to express that in your place of employment. When We feel we are no longer able to share our thoughts and feelings we begin to shut down, until we are able to run with the first chance we have.
EXAMPLE: I have always enjoyed working with you, you have so many bright ideas. RESULT: You have lied for the last three years telling joe joe this and now you are a hating your job. No you hate yourself because you have been lying to the same person and you hate that you now feel you are unable to be honest and quitting seem easier.
NOw LET”S GET TO THE POINT
DO you need to quit your job or do you need to stop giving away your energy to the people place and things that do not need them.
It is one thing to care and have compassion, however, when it consumes you to the fact that you have to falsely prove yourself you are no longer caring for yourself.
QUESTION IS: Are you lying to your coworkers just to fit in? If you could stop would your work life be a peaceful place?
the company allows the style of management to be put into place. Which style often leads to different measurements of success. all areas of the business need to be observed to measure the success, however; self reflection will enable you and your team to remain within the levels of positive results.
The three together and the affect over all productivity is a postive force of action
As a leader there are expectation that are put into place to lead the company to meet their goals. here are some questions to assist the type of management
How much information does your staff have about the company?
Would sharing your goals and vision improve their actions leading to the goals being met?
How soon do you tell your staff about the work they are needing to accomplish vs how long have you known about it. Preparation is key on any level.
Have you or the company done proper training for each job placement?
Does your staff respect you because you are friends or because you are a strong leader and run the company and team well?
How open are you when a new team member joins the staff?
Do you talk about staff with staff?
If there is a chain of command is it known and is it kept by employees?
How does the staff contact you?
Do you review each employee and if you are friends how do you justify the review?
How many staff do you check on daily?
How many need to watched and lead?
Knowing your stress points as a manager will allow you to have the proper reaction with your staff and customers.
What is a boss? It is the person in charge of a group or team of people that must ask permission before doing any action other than what was originally stated.
5 affects of being a boss
Emotional: the unknown of the day leads to stress and feelings generated towards other people that the matters are not with.
Physical: A lack of food and sleep result in decreased energy. MAking the day unbalanced
Mental: when you spend the day callulating everyone else process you spend little time meeting your own goals
Spiritual: Lack of faith in people may be a branch from a bigger tree.
Finance: By bossing and micro managing are you making a profit? If not then what is needed?
Suggest a list for the team to create and build on their strengths. By having them admit their wrongs you will create a positive conversation of development of company knowledge.
What is a leader? The person that sees items and products and insures improvement all while rallying the staff to move toward the company goals. A leader motivates while also being empathic. (learning the office terms defined)
5 affects of being a leader
Closing generational gap: when you learn how to motivate and also excel those with experience in the same field and team is a collaboration of personalities all working toward the same goals.
Satisfaction with in the environment: The staff feel safe, okay within the company walls, as well as the customers.
Respect is established and reciprocated: the loyalty of customer and staff is the result of a successful team. It is not without trials but it can be obtained.
Measured performance increase: solve problems faster than those that need to seek to verbal or written permission.
Communication is able to be shared and received: a direct communication line is the guild for completement of goals within the set time frame.
Suggest to your team; Sharing an Employees view of what training is needed to insure the maxim success is met.
What is a coach? The one that is able to see each team members strength and weakness. A coach is a motivating leader that pushes you to be the best you can be all while maintaining the numbers and growth of the company.
Facts applied: The thrid base coach knows all the players. Signals the plays needed for the game as it is happening. All while one is making revision for the team as a whole on a moment to moment notice. Being a coach requires quick feet.
5 affects of being a coach
knowledge: The information for goals and their plans are distributed, taught, practiced, reviewed and brought to the table for action. A coach insures that everyone knows the information and are placed within the teams to have the greatest success.
Trust: A connection is made on a personal level with each member of the staff. A coach will understand and know the points of strength and weakness. Therefore; the crew trust the judgement and placement of assignment.
Integrity: When you are established as being a trustworthy person word of mouth tends to increase sales. Coaches raise the profit as well as staff productivity.
Raise the standards: improved product and improved customer relations
Positive work environment: Having the knowledge, trusting the person it came from and meeting the goals of higher standards; A positive response.
Suggestions for management , See if a manager can name three personal facts of a staff member. Coaching is to know your team on a personal level as it is used to strengthen your company.
When a manager has been selected it is a call to do a great work; aspire within that you may inspire others.
Respect defined. Noun. To have deep admiration for someone or something. A state of feeling to be courteous, to be considerate. To be a tradition.
Verb. To have self-discipline, to applaud someone or something. To deeply admire someone or something by your own choice. To build trust or a safe place/space.
Respect is a learned behavior.
Respect is the teacher who sits on the desk as they teach, and the student that can not wait to do the same.
forth grade teacher of js, kindest teacher
We all have different ways to define respect. One thing is clear; expressing respect is less visible than disrespect. Disrespect is seen with body language and heard with harsh words.
Keep it Simple. Creating a list of disrespect may be easier to build. When we do the opposite our relationships may blossoms
Lack of sympathy
Lack of call back, emails, or personal response
Denial of an action and no remorse of any
Negative form of body language
Vocal threat of harm or violence
Negative jokes or Comments
Without respect relationships won’t last
There are four stages within the lose of respect
The time in which you first meet someone excitement is the fuel building and driving you. Quality time and questions build the relationship to a deeper level. Both parties have a vision what the relationship should be, therefore, the actions are incorporated to bring the vision life between the two set people.
Relationship is still together, however you are having to now try in create ways to be together. The time when connecting no longer seems to be a normal habit. Energy is required to be together, rather than creating energy.
Disconnect is often seen, in passions and goals. The relationship is managing to stay above water. Sometimes one has to let go so that the other may live.
Rather than letting go, there is an overwhelming amount of blaming that deflected. When our words and actions are at a hi level of disrespect. This will continue until one of the parties walks away, or help is sought out to save the relationship. Many times when it has reached this point disillusion is best due to the emotional and physical aspects in relationship. (in my none medical or doctor thoughts)
The above four parts of disrespect, Cited: “Ten Powerful Phrases for Positive People.” pg 144. Copy Right 2008. Hachette Book Group Inc. New York NY.
It is time to aspire for truth, that it may inspire justice.
Truth, because of our lack of respect that is growing beyond numbers in the past few years. When blaming everyone and everything for the world in which we live, it is fact; quite the contrary, life is a result of our personal actions. It is in fact case in point that our dilemma and struggles where created by our choice of respect or disrespect. Allow me to explain.
When an event in our life happens, we generate thought about the event. Leading to us generating an emotion and a thought again. We may generate an action, whether the action is positive or negative is up to us. We can choose to feel sorry for yourselves leaving our lives to remain in its currant state. OR we can begin to take actions that will bring about change in our lives. The choice to remain emotional or become active is up to each of us.
“As man thinks in his heart, so he is.”
Choice is yours: RESPECT and make a positive atmosphere for the world in which we live. Or the latter. When we blame others it is a form of DISRESPECT that often takes over our lives.
Remember: It is our duty to seek out the truth of any area, results may bring justice to the truth. Seek the truth in your life that justice may ring in your actions. Respect if no one else, yourself that you may free yourself of discord.
Fact: Disrespect only leads to deep pain and suffering. Self-care is self-love. How can we respect others when we do not even respect ourselves.
Respect starts with you. Respect is taught in the home. Practicing respect is an important part of growth.