“Laugh out loud to lighten the load that you carry. Cares take a toll on our health. When we find something to laugh about we can blow them away with laugher. I am a huge fan of spreading joy and laughter. When you smile at someone, they usually return the smile…”
Emotions and how to deal with them is not always taught
cope. it is taught one way or another.
most addicts are not found until they want to be
hovering over them is often a forced hand that will enable
addiction is found in all areas, the results will vary
control is loved by all humans
empowerment is a personal view
a saving grace to an addict is not understood by all
rock bottom, lacks direction because it is never in the same place
At the start of any addiction one is in control. while spinning it looks pretty and many look on in amazement. then it begins to wobble and spin out of control. when one impacted by the force of hitting rock bottom; many shake in wonder how did I get here? just like a child’s toy top, you chose to start this game spinning. nothing spins forever not even mother earth.
Understanding yourself first, empowers within, EXPRESSIONS of SUCCESS.js.
“if you are determined to learn, no one can stop you” zig ziglar
We are all set with same human makeup a mind, body, soul, and personal perspective. What is personal perspective? The unique buildup of each person’s thoughts and feeling. The world in which we live builds the very perspective we chose to give value. Through daily growth and the changing environment around us in turn makes a personal perspective a subject that remains in constant movement.
Let’s break down the 4 parts:Mind, Body, Soul and Personal Perspective
1.) THE BODY
Bones, the same in all humans
Skin, a protective layer that shields the inside of humans vital organs
Cells, generated to clean out the body supply it with the needed materials
Content of body mass, based on human engagement, genetics, life quality
Physical Appearance placement of body parts, generally the same for all
Height, subject in which we grow, in an upward motion
js, my personal perspective: The body is just that a body. The world holds different views. I think they are all wonderful.
Reflect: Has anything changed within your body, over the last year? Did it help when someone pointed it out? Was it a friend, that you loved someone told you, or the latter. Reviewing your body, has it affected your life in a negative or positive way?
2.) THE MIND
Controls the bodies movements
Contains mood affecting chemicals
Manages the thought process
Has the ability to learn and grow
Response can be positive or negative
js, my personal perspective: The mind is part of each of us that needs to be attended to. Sometimes it needs a little dusting, or one on one time with someone greater than us to set it on the right path. As many things in life a little fine tuning is good to keep it running tip top.
Reflect:How is your mind. Your thoughts, knowledge, communication driving you and the relationship with those around you. Are you heading into a positive atmosphere, did you know you could be in a negative place or time but remain personally positive, inner peace?
KEEP READING the soul and personal perspective are up next! Then the truth checking your relationship’s reality.
Positive minds launch positive relationships into the winning zone of inner peace.
3.) The Soul, defined by others
“The immaterial aspect or essence of human being” Britannica.com
“What is the making of your character” CallingDictionary.com
“The making of your lungs and heart within the body” Brigov.com
“Way in which we connect with one another and become one” Wondermist.com
“Able to feel your soul through nature and mediation” Huffpost.com
“The belief that we are able to overlap souls” Mind&BodyGreen.com
js, my personal perspective:I believe our soul is the way in which we connect with our higher power to have the ability to know right from wrong on a deeper level than what our caregivers taught us. When we are doing what is right our body is at peace because our soul is at peace.
Reflect: Have you ever thought about your soul? What ways have you came to terms with it? Have your thoughts changed through years? Does how you think about your soul determine your friendships?
Collection of your own personal thoughts and ideas
Interpretation of the world in which one is living
Analysis of material taught or shared
What ones character is built on
Constructed and reconstructed over a lifespan
The ability to be who you are. By reconfiguring everyone else’s fact and fiction into the personal fact and fictions of oneself.
js, my personal perspective: Each of us carry our thoughts and ideas based on our personal world. We build and create emotions, reactions and response based on our past knowledge or experience. Knowledge of our personal beliefs and why will allow us to understand the actions in which we take.
Question: Is the personal perspective of self right or wrong based on the laws and morals of the time period in which we live.
Reflect: Do you know your true personal perspective. Not what you truly can say is my own belief and knowledge because I have educated myself and now take it as my own. Believing what our parents, teachers or friends say. Do research on what is given to you. Then decide whether you will take it on as your own belief or not
Taking the worlds knowledge and obtaining your own
Are you over the day to to drama? Do you always worry what your boss will point out next? Do you feel like the kid being bullied in school? Do you feel as if there is no way out?
This is the blog for you. How could quitting be Your next best thing?
First why don’t we look at your employment.
ARE YOU DOING WHAT YOU DREAMED OF?
ARE YOU LIVING WHERE YOU WANT TO LIVE FOR AT LEAST THE NEXT 5 YEARS?
ARE YOU IN A STUDY RELATIONSHIP, MARRIAGE, PARTNERSHIP?
ARE YOU HEALTHY, SOBER, IN A GOOD MIND SET?
Remember, once we enter adulthood and cross over from the job to the career it is vital that we leave a trial that is not harmful in our advancements. With that said, let us look at the results of quitting.
Do you have A JOB OR A CAREER? COULD YOU AFFORD TO quit?
What if you did quit your job?
Would it help you?
WHAT IF YOU QUIT GIVING YOUR BOSS POWER AND STOP CARING WHAT THEY THOUGHT?
what would happen :
If you quit giving away your positive time and energy
If you quit caring about what other people thought
If you stopped lying when responding to coworker’s questions
EXAMPLE:How are you today Dan? I am great. RESULT: Simple things as saying you are great when you are not is allowing them to have the power of speech over you. It is okay to not be fine, and you need to be able to express that in your place of employment. When We feel we are no longer able to share our thoughts and feelings we begin to shut down, until we are able to run with the first chance we have.
EXAMPLE: I have always enjoyed working with you, you have so many bright ideas. RESULT: You have lied for the last three years telling joe joe this and now you are a hating your job. No you hate yourself because you have been lying to the same person and you hate that you now feel you are unable to be honest and quitting seem easier.
NOw LET”S GET TO THE POINT
DO you need to quit your job or do you need to stop giving away your energy to the people place and things that do not need them.
It is one thing to care and have compassion, however, when it consumes you to the fact that you have to falsely prove yourself you are no longer caring for yourself.
QUESTION IS: Are you lying to your coworkers just to fit in? If you could stop would your work life be a peaceful place?
the company allows the style of management to be put into place. Which style often leads to different measurements of success. all areas of the business need to be observed to measure the success, however; self reflection will enable you and your team to remain within the levels of positive results.
The three together and the affect over all productivity is a postive force of action
As a leader there are expectation that are put into place to lead the company to meet their goals. here are some questions to assist the type of management
How much information does your staff have about the company?
Would sharing your goals and vision improve their actions leading to the goals being met?
How soon do you tell your staff about the work they are needing to accomplish vs how long have you known about it. Preparation is key on any level.
Have you or the company done proper training for each job placement?
Does your staff respect you because you are friends or because you are a strong leader and run the company and team well?
How open are you when a new team member joins the staff?
Do you talk about staff with staff?
If there is a chain of command is it known and is it kept by employees?
How does the staff contact you?
Do you review each employee and if you are friends how do you justify the review?
How many staff do you check on daily?
How many need to watched and lead?
Knowing your stress points as a manager will allow you to have the proper reaction with your staff and customers.
What is a boss? It is the person in charge of a group or team of people that must ask permission before doing any action other than what was originally stated.
5 affects of being a boss
Emotional: the unknown of the day leads to stress and feelings generated towards other people that the matters are not with.
Physical: A lack of food and sleep result in decreased energy. MAking the day unbalanced
Mental: when you spend the day callulating everyone else process you spend little time meeting your own goals
Spiritual: Lack of faith in people may be a branch from a bigger tree.
Finance: By bossing and micro managing are you making a profit? If not then what is needed?
Suggest a list for the team to create and build on their strengths. By having them admit their wrongs you will create a positive conversation of development of company knowledge.
What is a leader? The person that sees items and products and insures improvement all while rallying the staff to move toward the company goals. A leader motivates while also being empathic. (learning the office terms defined)
5 affects of being a leader
Closing generational gap: when you learn how to motivate and also excel those with experience in the same field and team is a collaboration of personalities all working toward the same goals.
Satisfaction with in the environment: The staff feel safe, okay within the company walls, as well as the customers.
Respect is established and reciprocated: the loyalty of customer and staff is the result of a successful team. It is not without trials but it can be obtained.
Measured performance increase: solve problems faster than those that need to seek to verbal or written permission.
Communication is able to be shared and received: a direct communication line is the guild for completement of goals within the set time frame.
Suggest to your team; Sharing an Employees view of what training is needed to insure the maxim success is met.
What is a coach? The one that is able to see each team members strength and weakness. A coach is a motivating leader that pushes you to be the best you can be all while maintaining the numbers and growth of the company.
Facts applied: The thrid base coach knows all the players. Signals the plays needed for the game as it is happening. All while one is making revision for the team as a whole on a moment to moment notice. Being a coach requires quick feet.
5 affects of being a coach
knowledge: The information for goals and their plans are distributed, taught, practiced, reviewed and brought to the table for action. A coach insures that everyone knows the information and are placed within the teams to have the greatest success.
Trust: A connection is made on a personal level with each member of the staff. A coach will understand and know the points of strength and weakness. Therefore; the crew trust the judgement and placement of assignment.
Integrity: When you are established as being a trustworthy person word of mouth tends to increase sales. Coaches raise the profit as well as staff productivity.
Raise the standards: improved product and improved customer relations
Positive work environment: Having the knowledge, trusting the person it came from and meeting the goals of higher standards; A positive response.
Suggestions for management , See if a manager can name three personal facts of a staff member. Coaching is to know your team on a personal level as it is used to strengthen your company.
When a manager has been selected it is a call to do a great work; aspire within that you may inspire others.
Stress is a reality of adulthood. How one reacts to the stress will determine the satisfaction of that reality.
“Different views show different pictures”
1.) Know your stress points
Stress points are high level of emotions that disable your activities. Knowledge of these points and the source will help bring a understanding to the levels of stress. When the pin point is regonieved, of the first stress point, action now has a starting location. the snowball effect if you will can then be reduced.
Questions to ask yourself
Is the stress created by me, unrealistic expectation, lack of knowledge or preperation
Unresolved forgiveness within a relationship, personal or work related
The lack of physical or emotional needs being met
Hunger or thirst
Are you Worried, unable to focus on anything other
Anxiety or Depression
Life changes such as the death of human or animal, a break up in relationships or upset in the family circle
The Bad News Calls: results from a test, or call from land owner, friend.
With each question how would one react is the universe they will create. Positive actions or positive understanding of each process within the events will lend the strength to no longer allow stress point to affect other people or places it does not pertain to.
2.) Feed your body the proper nutrition
Nutrition is how food affects the body. By eating the right foods for the body at the rights times will maintain a healthy body. This is different for each human, however we are similar so you may look to other blogs for healthy food intake. When one takes care of the body it is less likely to cause an upset in the day to day activities.
Questions to ask yourself
Do I start my day off with breakfast
What type of day does my food consist of
What is my water intake
Am I able to use the restroom regularly
Do I need to visit with a doctor
Will packing my own food help me through my day
Does alcohol affect my proper food
How often do I move throughout day, work out, walk, or take the stairs
By changing a few of these at a time an increase of energy may help decrease the stress. Anger may be caused by lack of food. When one listens to the body through hunger or pain then taking the proper action allows the body to be relaxed; leading to the mind being at ease.
3.) Increase the level of knowledge
Knowledge is a great tool but when it not given or taken it may lead to a job or activity becoming harder to accomplish. Understanding how the knowledge was missed leads to finding a solution in obtaining it.
Questions to ask yourself
Is the lack of knowledge established by yourself
Was it the company or a personal oversight
What steps are needed to gain the knowledge
Is the knowledge one that you need to teach or instill
Do you need help and if so who and how do you ask the proper the channels
Self reflection may be needed for time to allow proper judgement into which action is needed
Seek advice, do research
The way you obtain knowledge is to seek it out. Funny how we have to learn how to learn. Often times this process makes a stronger when it is done ourselves because the reward is all ours. One may have to encounter new stress to relieve the stress on multiple levels.
4.)Creative thinking for daily encounters
Creative thinking of the employees or the coffee maker at the corner location
Are you a target for some unsaid reason
Do you need to soften your people skills
Is culture a topic
Home life of yourself and others
Knowledge on a personal level with people as well as our personal communication skills can enhance the positive level in which information is received and given.
Creative thinking, Observation of daily living, Finding the Middle Ground, and Refreshing the Start to your day.
To give love we must first love ourselves.
One area of stress often becomes two.
Justice within the lines can be found on social media lines. A community awaits those seeking justice and success. Find your support team and change the world one action at a time.
What is the true respect? A marriage true quality is maintaining respect when no one is holding the marriage accountable. This blog well share key points I have learned to insure a healthy & respectful marriage.
Key Points: Mutual Respected Marriage
Balance of physical desires
Importance in how we communicate:
Calm Assertive tones
Submissive to desires
Humble yourself that opinions may be shared
Listen to hear, not to respond
Trust, their words as the truth.
Adhere to the needs/desires within a conscience time frame
The Following was created and written by js the author of this blog, no sharing rights are given. CopyRight 2020
When A Respectful Gardener’s Communicates
“When a Respectful Gardener’s Communicates”
“Blossom Conversation– having a conversation that enables the other person to give you feed back and advice as they see the situation
Watering Conversation– one person has the ability to share how they feel about a topic without a rebuttal
Planting Conversation-both of you equally have the ability to share ideas, both in negative and positive views within the subject”
if your sentence starts with: Should of, Could of, Would of, then you have unrealistic expectations that you have placed on someone or something, resulting in disappointment that we have set into motion BY own assumptions.
Asking advice for a marriage is tricky:
Best friend- May side with you and or hold resentments
Coworkers –Unsafe feed back due to lack of shared knowledge
Family members – Bringing them into the marriage may have negative lasting effects.
Professional help is always best. Seek one voice for advise rather than many.
Negative Results ( When Disrespect comes into the relationship) : Communication breaks down. When we begin to let other people influence our relationship. Our opinion or assumption may lead towards discord. This is a good stopping point. Return to your spouse and talk with them about the emotions you experienced. Remember all venting is not good venting. Teamwork; may be compromised when we allow outside influences that enable our justification in no longer listening to the needs of said partner. Disrespect is seen when we begin the action of defense of justifying, blame, shift blame, or projecting your own negative behavior on the actions of others . The balance has been lost and soon the balance of the physical needs may be lost or maintained else where.
How we engage in secret will become known to the outside world. Respecting our partner leads to:
Respecting our partner leads to inner and outward success
Respecting our partner leads to unity
Respecting our partner leads to the strength development within our cognitive behavior
Fulfillment of Serenity
Aline with Moral Values
Physical Desires…. within the marriage.
CALL TO ACTION:
What is Newtons Law, The motion of an object and the forces that is set against it. It either remains in continues motion or it remains at rest. We either remain to be positive force showing acts of respect or our relationship is at a stand still with disrespect. We remain the same until a force of change is directly applied.
REMAIN RESPECTFUL as you continue your acts of respect within your marriage, that it may express success in secret.